Sunday, September 12, 2010

Choose Love

Lately, I have been working at choosing love every moment of every day of my life. Is it easy? Hardly. Can it be done? Mostly.

Over the past several years, I have also been working on the thoughts I choose to think. Do I think positive thoughts? Or do I choose to live in the mire of negativity? I find that I am much happier if I choose positive, optimistic loving thoughts. Once I learned that it’s my choice, then I’m more aware of the thoughts that I entertain in my brain. I love the saying: “You may not be able to stop a bird from landing on your head, but you sure can stop it from building a nest.”

I haven’t always been able to keep my thoughts in a positive frame of mine, and there are times when I still struggle with it. It depends on how I’m feeling and what’s going on in my life. I know there are life issues that I or anyone else may be dealing with that can greatly influence the thoughts that go through our heads. I used to think really horrible thoughts about myself. I’m fat, I’m ugly, I’m worthless, won’t amount to anything, why try because it won’t work out anyway… Now I know that those thoughts are lies. Outright lies. I don’t think those thoughts about other people, so why on earth would I think them about myself?

The saying is true: “Change your thoughts; change your life.” This morning on the Joel Osteen televised service, he talked about if we change our perspective, we change our life. And it’s true. I always say: “There is nothing right or wrong, good or bad; it’s just our perspective that makes it so.” Changing your perspective will change your thoughts which will change your life.

Most of what we know, believe, and/or think is taught to us. We believe it because someone told us it was so. Once you learn that you have a choice over what you believe, think, or know, then you can search for the Truth, that Truth is within everyone one of us, and that Truth is always in Love. Not everyone will see the same Truth, but it will be their Truth nonetheless, and that’s okay.

So, how am I choosing love? My first challenge was to change the thoughts I had upon first awakening. It used to be that as soon as I opened my eyes, I would think, “Oh, Shit.” Honest! It took awhile to change that one. Now I am working on my first thoughts being: “It’s a beautiful day! I am going to have a great day! Life is good! All my dreams are coming true! I am prosperous and abundant in all things. I love my life!” And then I go into my gratitudes: “Thank you for my home, that I have a warm bed to sleep in, food to eat, my health, my body, my babies (animals), my parents, friends….” I try to do this no matter how I’m feeling physically or mentally. Sometimes, it’s a challenge. But I can sure tell you it’s a whole lot better than “Oh, shit!”

Next is how I can I spread that love? One of the easiest ways to spread love is to do random acts of kindness. Just be kind to people. Ask yourself, “What can I do to brighten someone’s day?” Just smiling and saying hi to someone can make a world of difference to that person. It may be the only smile they’ve received in days, months, or years. I’ve read stories where just a smile or word of kindness can impact a person’s life greatly. Be kind even if you don’t receive any response. You’re not being kind to be thanked. You’re doing it to give and spread love. I remember giving a woman a hug one time because she was having a pretty rough day, and she responded by saying, “Gosh, I don’t even remember the last time someone hugged me!”

I like shooting people with “thought wads of love” (like a spit wad). As I pass them, I shoot them a love wad. On the physical level, they don’t know it, but spirit to spirit, they do. Or maybe they do feel it on some level and they all of a sudden have a good feeling, but don’t know where it came from. We’ll never know. But I do it anyway.

Also, who are we choosing to love or to send love to? All the great spiritual leaders throughout history ~ Jesus, Buddha, Mohammad, Allah, Gandhi, the Dalai Lama, Martin Luther King, Jr. ~ have taught that we are to love ALL living beings unconditionally.

I work as a temporary in the medical records department of a mental health center, and most days, the waiting room is filled with people who are in the most horrible pain. As I see any of these patients, I quietly bless them, smile, and say hello. Many times, they just stare at me. But that’s okay. You never know how you may touch someone’s life.

We can all think back to where someone’s kindness touched us deeply and we remember it for the rest of our lives. Are you going to be one of those who touches someone in a positive and loving way so that maybe, just maybe, you made their life a little better because of your touch? Or are you going to be mean spirited, grumpy, and bring someone down? Remember that there is a domino effect. You pass on a kindness in love, and then they pass on a kindness, and they pass on a kindness…. Or you pass on grouchiness or meanness and then they pass on that feeling to someone else and on down the line. We also need to remember that what we give out, we receive in return in some way or some form. It may not be immediate, but it is the law of the Universe that it will return.

Therefore, my friends…. Choose love. Because it has already chosen you.

1 comment:

Bea Wood said...

Very well said, Karen. I prefer your way better than the negative way also. It IS difficult some days though, isn't it? And easy to forget we have the choice.