Tuesday, December 22, 2009

Holiday Heavy-Duty-Life-Doo

Tis the season to be jolly, falalalalala. When you think about the holidays…Thanksgiving, Christmas, and New Years…you usually associate them with feelings of love, warmth, family, happiness, joy… But for many, it’s anything but.

When you look around you, there are so many people who are going through the most awful “stuff” right now. What I call “heavy-duty-life-doo.” When you add the holidays, it just magnifies all the negativity that much more. Have you ever wondered why there tends to be more illnesses and deaths during the holidays?

The holidays have been hyped up so much by the media, marketers, TV, and the movies. People fall in love, receive wonderful gifts, see miracles occur, and everything always has a happy ending. If you are one who has wonderful holidays, I really am happy for you. But for many, these images are a fairy tale. And for some, they are an outright nightmare.

I see so many of my friends and loved ones struggling with their health, finances, relationships, family issues, and so much more. During the holidays, there is the added stress of eating too much food (mostly sweets), having to decide which family you will spend the which holiday with, traveling to visit those families, trying to come up with the money to buy Christmas gifts (or going into debt), and looking for the love the holidays are supposed to provide.

My heart goes out to all those who are having whatever struggles they are experiencing, especially at this time of year. Sometimes I feel so helpless because I don’t know what I can do to help. So, what can we do?

You’d be surprised at how even the smallest gesture can help brighten someone’s day. Send a card. Call just to say hi and that you’re thinking about them. Bake them some goodies or a meal. Ask if there’s anything you can do. Just let them know you care. Sometimes just knowing someone cares can make a world of a difference.

Thanksgiving is a time to give thanks. Christmas is a time of love, and for Christians, a time of celebrating the birth of Jesus. For other faiths who celebrate holidays around this time of year, it’s the same for them. So, let’s remember the basics. Reach out and love someone. Say, “I care.” Remember the true meaning of the holidays.

Merry Christmas, Happy Hanukkah, Happy Kwanzaa, and for all those faiths I missed, Happy Holidays! Wishing you all the very best life has to offer.